cleaned up includes based on `include-what-you-use` (#8579) #19890

Job	Run time
build_cmake (ubuntu:25.10, true, true)	4m 57s
build_cmake (ubuntu:24.04, true, true)	4m 58s
build_make (ubuntu:25.10)	5m 22s
build_make (ubuntu:24.04)	4m 33s
build_make (alpine:3.23)	4m 39s
build_cmake (alpine:3.23, false, false)	4m 25s
	28m 54s

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