disable `aiodns`, fix futex deadlocks #2031

Job	Run time
sdist	39s
build-spidermonkey-unix (macos-15-intel, 3.10)	8m 36s
build-spidermonkey-win	17s
build-spidermonkey-unix (ubuntu-22.04-arm, 3.10)	20s
build-spidermonkey-unix (ubuntu-22.04, 3.10)	14s
build-spidermonkey-unix (macos-14, 3.10)	13s
publish-archive	0s
publish-nightly	0s
publish	0s
build-and-test	-1s
	10m 18s

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